Quick tip! I hear people say ”well at least...” or explain what is going on for them promptly followed by, ”but”, a lot these days.For example:Work cut my hours dramatically but at least I still have my job. OrThat hurt so bad but I'll get over it, just gotta try and stay positive.By speaking this way, everything before the ”but” or ”at least” gets invalidated. Then we add a layer of guilt or judgment for the feelings attached to the first part of our truth.So, in this manner ”still having a job” negates how awful it must feel to lose our income. Now, not only are we fearful, worried, concerned, we are overriding the ability to feel it as a valid experience and in a way making it less significant.Yes we are grateful for the job and yes we can stay positive but we also get to acknowledge the rest.One way to avoid this is to replace but or at least with ... read the rest on IG!

Stop, collaborate and listen!Okay, okay - but seriously.Just because you are a good caretaker doesn’t mean it’s your job to take care of everyone.If you are a good friend you’re not required to be everyone’s friend.The fact that you made it through a crisis with strength does not mean you have to power through things without feeling and healing.You are not the fixer whisperer. You are not obligated to do all the things because you have done so before, (momma’s I am looking at you!) Doing something well or seemingly with ease does not then make it your job for all future situations.Especially situations that are hard and feel like they are draining your energy and soul.YOU WILL BE GOOD TO NO ONE IF YOU ARE NOT GOOD TO YOURSELF FIRST!Read that again.We often find ourselves doing something just because we did it before, but you do have a choice.You matter that much.Sincerely,Tracy Jean - a recovering fixer.::exits soapbox stage left::

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